With summer comes weddings and with weddings, the desire for weddings comes up. I have been there. I have a Pinterest board or two that were full of all my wedding dreams. Pinterest is a great tool for planning a wedding. That is pretty much all I did once I got engaged.
There is no harm in dreaming. I started dreaming about my wedding once I saw my first episode of A Wedding Story on TLC ( any body else remember that show?!?).
When I was 18, God spoke to my heart. This was after I was with a guy I thought I was going to marry. I had been dreaming of our wedding and when I realized he wasn’t for me and I wasn’t for him; it was heartbreaking. So when I was praying and seeking God for direction. My answer was that I needed to dream about my marriage, not my wedding.
Easier said then done for sure. It’s hard when you see pictures from friends getting married and those gorgeous wedding dresses. In fact it is so much easier to dream about one day then to dream about the rest of your life.
If you want the honest truth; the day that is suppose to be the best day of your life….. I only remember bits and pieces of that day. And while that day was one of the happiest days of my life, I have had made a bunch of other happy memories within being married the past two years.
Marriage is hard work. It requires you to be selfless. Being someone’s sidekick and biggest fan. Sometimes you’ll be hurt by words, and there will be times you are hurtful. There will be times where you feel so lost in this world and holding the hand of somebody who loves you at you worst, when no one else can. Marriage is beautiful and ugly at the same time. But you wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Letting go the fantasy of the wedding and grasping the reality of marriage is what I think is more romantic. The wedding was a public version of me. My hair and face done and smiling for pictures. The marriage is a stubborn freckled girl who has a temper, and free-spirited. Once I grasped the concept of dreaming of my marriage over my wedding, I allowed myself to be me with my husband. I realized that I never wanted to be anything but me. The man who was willing to be married to me for better or worse, temper and even keeled times, till death, deserved a wedding more then I did. That’s not easy.
I am not an expert in marriage. But I pray that this will touch somebody. Weddings are wonderful. However, marriage that is built on preparing your heart, and loving someone for the rest of your life; is precious. Having someone love you for the rest of your life will be more memorable then the dress that you can’t eat in!